There is nothing ‘JUST’ about you

This post is dedicated to my mother-in-love. She’s always been one of my biggest cheerleaders. Since she reads all of my blog and social media posts, she took the time to reach out after a recent one went live. We always have wonderful conversations, many of them surrounding motherhood, and the SAHM life. She sent me a text after reading my Dreamer post, stating that a phrase I used had stood out to her. I had said, “I’m just a stay-at-home mom with a dream!” She went on to share a personal story from years earlier, where she had said, “it’s' 'just me,” as she entered her place of work. Her former employer called her into her office and told her, “Lori, there is nothing JUST about you! Always remember that.” These words were imprinted on her heart, and she was kind enough to pass that wisdom down to me.

‘Just’ a Stay-at-Home Parent

Her thoughtful text not only brought tears to my eyes, but it also presented a moment of self reflection. I know I struggle with this ‘just’ mentality, especially in my motherhood role. There is no real value tied to being a stay-at-home parent, and sadly it’s often looked down upon, or romanticized. But, the fact that we don’t have a salary and benefits does not mean that our contributions are of no value. (I’m reading that sentence again.)

It’s Not ‘Just’ About Motherhood

This mindset isn’t only present in parenthood, either. We are worthy and loved as we are, without any of our given titles. I know I struggle with this deeper aspect of ‘just’ as well as within the SAHM category. It’s no secret that I’m an avid reader of self-help books, and will choose a motivational podcast over a TV show any day. I’m constantly filling my heart and mind with these uplifting messages not only because I enjoy them, but also because I need to hear them. I need these reminders that I am special and worthy as I am. We are all deserving of love and care and grace. The same things we strive to offer others. Our thoughts, our words, our actions, our whole selves are all worth sharing with the world. There’s no ‘just’ about it.

Kick ‘Just’ to the Curb

I used that phrase in my response to my MIL, and I think it will be my new mantra. Whenever I’m feeling inadequate, or I’m stuck in the comparison game, I will recite these words: “kick ‘just’ to the curb, Caitlyn.” Because as a very wise woman once told me, “there is nothing JUST about you.”