Our four year old refers to everyone as “humans”: one of my favorite quotes he’s said thus far is, “Mom, I’m done talking to humans today.” Totally get it, dude. I feel that way a lot of the time too. This terminology is adorable, and endearing; and it sparked an interesting topic of conversation. When we’re young we don’t understand the categorization of people into specific groups. We’re all on the same level – we’re human. I love this innocence, and the lack of prejudices.

If we can help our children to focus on our similarities and the fact that we are all human, perhaps we can hold onto this innocence a bit longer. It is not about choosing one group to support or show kindness to. We need to treat everyone this way. It’s not about raising kind boys or girls. We need to raise good humans.

One parenting technique that I feel is extremely helpful in raising good humans, is demonstrating kindness. We are constantly talking to our kids about being kind to one another. My husband and I both stand by the quotation, “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.” I want our sons to be the ones who sit with the lonely kid at lunch. I want to see them helping in times of need, and caring for those around them. We will always have a choice to go one route or the other, and I hope our kids choose the high road.

In the spirit of raising good humans, here are a few easy ways you and your little one can spread kindness:

1) Give Someone a Compliment

This is one of my favorite ways of spreading kindness. Have you ever had someone tell you your hair looks great, or they like your shoes? Remember how good it made you feel? It can be that simple to put a smile on someone’s face. And, it doesn’t have to be based on outward appearances. Maybe someone did a great job on their art project, or got the highest score on an exam. Talk about compliments with your kid(s) on your drive to school. Tell them to either think of someone they know they want to compliment ahead of time, or take notice during the day and make it more spontaneous. Either way, the giver and receiver will both benefit from this small act of kindness.

2) Hold the Door Open

This is not only a kind gesture, but it’s also a great way to give the littles some independence. Our toddler loves being able to do things on his own, especially when it seems like a ‘big’ job. Opening a door can be impactful for older kids too. Teach them to recognize when someone is in need of help, and to offer a hand. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been juggling my purse, two kids, and a package at the post office. Every time someone reaches over to grab the door, I want to hug them for taking the time to do so. But, my hands are full.

3) Hide a ‘Happy Note’

This is a fun one, and you can channel your inner crafty side. Have your kids help you decorate a small piece of paper (or paint a rock) with a positive word, or motivational quote. Then, find a random place to leave it for someone to find. You can be more intentional and pop it in a neighbors mailbox, or leave it on a park bench. These are sure to bring a smile to someone’s face, and your kids will enjoy the top secret mission of hiding it.

4) Smile

This last one is probably the easiest, and may seem silly. But, I truly believe in the power of a smile. You never know what kind of day a person has had, or what challenges they are facing. A genuine smile can often be what they need to turn that day around. Make eye contact, show off those pearly whites, and be the light.

There are plenty of ways we can spread kindness to those around us. Let this encourage you to commit to one random act of kindness each day. I think you’ll find that it has a ripple effect, and you’ll feel fulfilled. Plus, your good human in progress will see these things and pass them on as well.